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Impending Post

Truly speaking, I am finding it hard to arrange thoughts into words. I guess that’s why it took me so long to write this impending post.

In my life, there are always miracles taking place when I felt I will be in a deep trouble. Its true! I always believe in that. There will always be a helping hands; a good advice deliver to me in a unique way. This time, it did the same as well!

Before I attended the church activities (for those who had read my previous post long ago, you would understand why I will attend these activities occasionally), I am seriously finding hard to arrange my thoughts regarding the things that happened lately. There was this one special story or should I called it as teachings/preachings told by the pastor. It’s about one thing, called -Scandalon. Personally, this is the first time I came across with this term.

Scandalon, in the bible, referred to some kind of obstacles or physical stone/barrier planted by people on the ground, with the hope to trap the trespassers. The pastor continued by telling a story which was dated back 2000 years ago, where there is one innocent man-Mark. During those days, the law commanded that whoever found to be have any small or tiny spots/pimples on their face, shall be called and labelled as having leprosy (an infectious disease) and to be isolated from the community. Poor Mark, was spotted to have the pimple and he was brought forward to see the priest. Despite thousand times of pleading, Mark was being labelled as Lepor and was sent out of the community. He was trap in a group of people with leprosy. 10 years later, Jesus passed by the valley and Mark called out for Him as Mark heard from rumours that Jesus is able to make the blind see and did many wonderful things to the unfortunates. Jesus told Mark to let go of the anger and the only way to get himself out from the scandalon is to forgive the people who condemned him. Finally, Mark risk his life and made his way to the community and forgive the priest. Miracle happened! He was healed from Leprosy!

As a matter of fact, we are unable to avoid offenses in our life. In the modern wold context, these scandolon will always be place around you. You just cannot avoid it. It’s true that it is very frustrating, annoying, disappointing when offenses hit you numerous time. Thousands of offenses yet are we able to focus on each of it and get mad over it? How much energy left for us to deal with other important and necessary things in our life? In fact, people who plant the scandalon might not even remember they did it before, they just get going with their life while you are being stuck and held behind by angers!

Yes, I felt this is so much true and yet I am held back by this scandolon recently. I have to say, I am really really really stupid! Haha!

I am glad that I came across this story! See, this is what I meant by miracle in my life!

So, message to be taken home after reading this post, do not held back by scandalon. Appreciate your life and keep moving forward. Make sure you lead a better life than they did, not for the sake of them, but it’s for the sake of yourself 😀

Thank You!

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Move Forward

I read one article recently. It’s quite meaningful and straight forward about life. I would like to share it out so that everyone get the chance to read 😀 By the way its in chinese language.

如果你也有放不下的人,進來讀讀吧,相信你會學會
       一個苦者找到一個和尚傾訴他的心事。
  他說:“我放不下一些事,放不下一些人。”
  和尚說:“沒有什麼東西是放不下的。”  
  他說:“這些事和人我就偏偏放不下。”
  和尚讓他拿著一個茶杯,然後就往裏面倒熱水,一直倒到水溢出來。
       苦者被燙到馬上鬆開了手。
  和尚說:“這個世界上沒有什麼事是放不下的,痛了,你自然就會放下。”

       你可能覺得難過 ,

  因為無論你對他怎麼好 他都不領情
  他不是看不到 他只是裝作看不到
  或者他根本不想看到
  你覺得自己很喜歡他
  甚至覺得再沒有一個人可以像你那麼喜歡他
  你用盡全力對他好
  把他看的比自己還重要
  有什麼事情第一個就想到他
  聯繫不到他的時候 你擔心他擔心的快瘋了
  然而你有沒有想過
  這並不在你的責任範圍
  而且很有可能他是在躲著你
  他受不了你對他那麼好

      不要一直發短信給他 ,
    不要一直找他
  你也許只是想找他說說話
  你覺得那很正常 不算苛求
  但是也許他並不這麼想
  記住 你的想法不代表他的想法
  你是真的不求回報的在喜歡他嗎
  你捫心自問一下
  你確定不用他回報什麼嗎
  那為什麼你會難過
  若是真的一無所求
  你又怎麼會覺得難過呢
  所以 別覺得你那麼愛他是偉大的
  也許她根本不在乎你怎麼為他付出
  有時候你給他的愛或許是種負擔
  這種負擔只會讓他更加想遠離你
  因為他不想虧欠你
  別事事為他擔心為他張羅
  你覺得他沒有你不行
  你覺得別人做不到你那麼完善
  但是你要清楚
  你不是他要的那個人
  你做的再完善也敵不過人家不做
  那個位置本來就不是你的
  你何必硬要擠上去呢
  你說道理你都懂 只是你做不好
  喜歡他不是你的錯
  想關心他不是你的錯
  控制不住自己不是你的錯
  但是那是你的方式
  人家不一定就能接受你這種所謂無私的愛
  所以如果你喜歡他 他不喜歡你
  那麼就請你默默的
  別試圖讓他知道
  就算你會難過 甚至難過的流淚
  就請你默默的
  就算是逼自己也好
  一定要忍著
      
       傻孩子.

  忘了吧.所有你留戀的.你回憶的.你擁有過的.
  那些.都已是記憶.
  缺失並不可怕.
  可怕的.是無法面對.

  傻孩子.
  你無法輕易忘記放棄.是因為你付出過.
  付出了.她就會像柱子一樣紮根在心.
  不要刻意去逃避.刻意忘記.那只會讓你更痛苦.
  繞開這個柱子.尋找未來的幸福生活吧.
  那裏.有你的理想.
  傻孩子.
  開始新的習慣吧.
  習慣.每天一個人生活.
  習慣.一個人過生日.一個人行走.
  習慣.走過熟悉的路.面對熟悉的景.
  你逃不掉.逃不掉的.
  那麼.就勇敢面對.現實.
  現實是.一切.畫上了句點.

  傻孩子.
  勇敢看著鏡子中的自己吧.
  這個悲傷軟弱滿面憔悴的自己.
  這也是你.成長中的你.
  這個你.正在逐漸死去.
  新的你.即將重生.
  找尋你的路.你的未來.
  你知道的.所有的浩劫.都是成長的祭奠.
  做最好的自己.即使.一個人.

  傻孩子.
  好.好.盡情發泄吧.
  剝開自己的心.用文字.用聲音.用所有能發泄的方式.
  泄完了.就要振作.
  看吧.你失去的.其實微不足道.
  還有那麼多人關心著你.以不同的方式.
  所以.你並不孤獨.
  正是這樣的失去.讓你看清現在所擁有的幸福.

  傻孩子.
  別哭.別再哭.
  不值得.真的.不值得了.
  把過去塵封吧.別委屈.別不甘心.別不接受.
  開始新的旅程吧.去遇見新的風景.新的際遇.
  做你該做的事吧.有很多事.等待著你完成呢.
  
  傻孩子.
  生活褪去了曾有的顏色.暫時寧靜.
  別沉淪在這片寧靜裏.那會毀掉你.
  你要明白.雖然殘忍.但這個決定.足夠正確.
  現在的生活.不是你想要的.
  為了你的理想.你必須學會適時放棄.
  給對方最好的關懷.就是.變的更好.更強大.更幸福.
  現在我對你很好、很好、很好,你不需要、你無所謂、你不在乎,你不珍惜。。。。
  當某天,你被傷害,想起我。那時的我再也做不到像現在這樣一如既往、不顧一切的對你好了。。。
  因為那時的我,已經將你放低。。。。
 
  原來,放低一個人,最後是被對方逼出來的。。。。

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